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Over the last few days, I have been helping friends with various sorts of problems, from relationship ones, to the College work type. What strikes me is that how many people complain about these problems endlessly while doing nothing about it. I just want you guys to know if you have any problems you would like advice on solving, then please don’t hesitate to leave a post or comment on this blog, and I will try my best to help! I love helping others whenever I can, so it’s my way of making the world a little bit better for all of us! :)
Anyway, speaking of problems, I’ll start with the most common problem many of my friends faced (as well as myself), and I would appreciate any positive or constructive feedback on this… :/
A few days ago, on Boxing Day (the day after Christmas), some of my friends had a party at someone’s house. I was invited, but I wasn’t feeling well enough to go, and my regular buses had been cancelled for the day, so there was no way I could have gone there. Anyway, after the party, I find out that a few of my friends were talking about other people they consider as friends and were basically backstabbing them, talking about how so and so was this, and the like. In particular, I have been backstabbed, especially since I have never done anything wrong to these particular people.
I don’t particularly like having to type this over this blog, but it’s something that has been bothering me a LOT. One of the people tried talking to me the other day as though nothing had happened (because they thought I didn’t know), but my point is this. Why on earth would you say negative things to other people behind their back? You wouldn’t like it if other people were doing the same thing to you, so why do it?
Of course, I can hear the arguments coming in. One argument might be that since everybody does it, it is alright to do it. Kinda like “an eye for an eye, a tooth for a tooth” thing. But this point fails. So say, if everybody decided that stealing was ok, would you do it? No.
Another point would be this - “We’re just saying our OPINIONS, and therefore we aren’t really backstabbing anyone” - An opinion is a belief or judgment that rests on grounds insufficient to produce complete certainty. And if you did have negative opinions about a friend, why not tell them why you think/feel that way about them, so that they can do something about it? If not, then at least you were honest with that person, and they will respect you for it since you’re helping them to become a better person, and it helps you to better understand yourself.
But no. There are so many cowards out there that are more than willing to backstab other people, but they can’t say their opinions to their face in the fears that the other person will get them back. Trust me, you’ll gain so much more respect from the person if you weren’t a kniving b****** and were completely honest with them, as well as being a better and more reliable friend. You would also expect that from everyone you meet, so why not set an example for the rest of us?
Of course, if that person is beyond redemption, then just drop the person as a friend. Simple enough. At least you won’t make the same mistake twice. I know I won’t.
